tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post9047120344509700718..comments2008-05-19T20:00:44.444-07:00Comments on The Annex: BBB Tour: The Time Traveller's WifeLollipop Goldsteinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01020874415819057995noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-39255345861023940432007-04-18T18:11:00.000-07:002007-04-18T18:11:00.000-07:00Thank you for helping explain the male perspective...Thank you for helping explain the male perspective. It is so hard for me with each loss and while my husband is sad, he seems to 'get over it' so quickly. <BR/><BR/>I know (logically) that these pregnancies are abstract, but I can't understand it. Does that make his feelings an abstraction for me?Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10607197025263628273noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-20186083743403316772007-04-18T02:28:00.000-07:002007-04-18T02:28:00.000-07:00I "got" the IF/miscarriage link right away. Clare ...I "got" the IF/miscarriage link right away. Clare couldn't hang onto Henry, and she couldn't hang on to his baby, but oh how she wanted a little bit of him that would always be there.<BR/><BR/>“My body wanted a baby. I felt empty and I wanted to be full. I wanted someone to love who would stay: stay and be there, always. And I wanted Henry to be in this child, so that when he was gone, he wouldn’t be entirely gone, there would be a bit of him with me.”<BR/><BR/><BR/>Do you think Henry's respons to the losses was typical of a man? He went along with what Clare wanted. But he was so frightened he would lose her. <BR/><BR/>“Clare. The next time you miscarry, it’s going to kill you and I’m not going to keep doing something that’s going to end up with you dead. Five pregnancies… I know you want to try again, but I can’t. I can’t take it anymore, Clare. I’m sorry.”<BR/><BR/>Henry was looking for the "answer", gene therapy to "cure" the chrono-displacement. <BR/><BR/>It's so hard for men to accept that some things can't be "fixed" don't you think?Drowned Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10986235620079099752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-5347999719757866892007-04-17T19:29:00.000-07:002007-04-17T19:29:00.000-07:00I'm going to go with previous posters in flagging ...I'm going to go with previous posters in flagging the male point of view. Not that the rest wasn't interesting (I didn't think of the time travel/IF metaphor either, til I read the question) but the male point of view is sometimes hard to come by, even when one lives with a bona-fide male.<BR/><BR/>It will be interesting to see what they do with the movie. And you're right - although dying to know what happened to Alba, there was no place for that tale in this book.<BR/><BR/>BeaBeahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11877513815828460269noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-80742047654795933632007-04-17T09:38:00.000-07:002007-04-17T09:38:00.000-07:00I hadn't thought of how Henry or Clare's time trav...I hadn't thought of how Henry or Clare's time travel experiences related to infertility either. Well, I see it more from Clare's point of view with the waiting, but had a harder time with Henry's POV. <BR/>Great answers!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-67089631477046320362007-04-16T18:46:00.000-07:002007-04-16T18:46:00.000-07:00Oh you did such a great job answering the question...Oh you did such a great job answering the questions. You helped me see things through my husband's eyes. I think he would enjoy this book too, if only I could get him to read fiction instead of non-fiction. :)<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing!Sunnyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14570018200281339937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-28060939355740193502007-04-16T16:49:00.000-07:002007-04-16T16:49:00.000-07:00Thanks for sharing the male point of view. It doe...Thanks for sharing the male point of view. It does seem like with my husband, his feelings on infertility are never incremental, unlike mine. He'll be thinking about in an abstract and distant fashion, and then it seems to come crashing down. I guess that comes from not dealing with the physical reality of it during the cycles in the same way.Samanthahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02799401502134619497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-38589683.post-90492789247230190942007-04-16T09:02:00.000-07:002007-04-16T09:02:00.000-07:00Interesting to get the male point of view. I thin...Interesting to get the male point of view. I think my husband would agree with you on when reality sets in. I didn't love the book, but it's interesting to see what others got out of it.Yeah Sohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03989848317356232631noreply@blogger.com